Ku-ing the States of Fear

 "I had a fool's confidence..." that a life conducted openly, honestly, and earnestly would keep the fear at bay.  

In yesterday's BUSH society, the main accomplishment was the creation of a new world energy now governed by fear and mistrust; our basic sense of community now demoralized by it; so much so that seeming good intentions and kindness are not expected and therefore not trusted.  In fact when it is offered, suspicion, or counter offers in the form of passive aggression seem to be standard responses.  

On this playing field, there's no teamwork.  We pull away from each other, pull into ourselves, into our shells where we think its safe.  But there's the rub.  Inside the shell we starve ourselves of touch, kind sounds, support, affection, and thus good fortune that can only come from supportive communities.  As fearful beings we only support our egotistical inner demons who see others as enemies of our progress. 

But there are no enemies; only friends who live in fear as we do.  Ironic that in fear we strive to be alone, rather than to reach out to protect and hold each other up.  This really pisses me off, but most of the time it just disappoints and saddens me.  However, all of the time I want to be, so I rebel by trying to be, a confident fool who just wants to be playing with YOU in the rain...fearlessly.

"Somehow Crazy"
Sun sets on our love
So intense and then nothing
Funny how it dies.

"venge-full"
Takes two to refill
(One to distract, two to kill)
The space left by one

~ Mystic Urchin~

Ku-ing the Con of Love

"Con"

An unselfish act

Can only be born of love

Mystery solved.

~Mystic Urchin~ 

Questions: 

Does unselfish love really exist?  And if so, what conditions allow it to thrive?  Does it remain unselfish or does it eventually become possessive, fragile, and fearful?

I asked my friend what he meant by this Ku - just to be clear.  I wasn't sure what photo to post with it to be frank.  But then after this conversation - I could only come up with parental love:

ME: 

Having trouble with this one. Why did you call it "con".  Trying to think of the photo for this one and I'm stuck...expand a little for me - or gimme a figurative picture...

Love

URCHIN:
'Con' because it was something I spent a lot of time thinking 
about...is there really such a thing as an unselfish act?
Then I realised we only do unselfish things for ppl we truly love.
Charity is bullshit most of the time - we do it mostly to make 
ourselves feel better.

ME:
Ah yes - the old philosophical and psychological question in ethics 
and morality:  Does true altruism exist?  Nietzsche had a few 
interesting things to say on that one.  Ever got into him?

Yes I agree with you, but in more detached intellectual moments I have ventured to say that even what we do for 'love', is an effort to have that love returned; so the act therefore is not truly selfless since it still relies on some kind of return.

Tsk.

Anyhoo - thank you baby - i think i know where to dig now.

URCHIN:
No - the love I'm talkin about isn't romantic love - I mean love like what me+u have or that I have for Syd.... I have done things for frens + my child that they don't even know I've done...and not for love to be returned.
That's true love :)

ME:
I didn't misunderstand you - I wasn't thinking of Eros at all.  But usually the love you speak of, Agape, is thought among psychologists and philosophers to be quite rare, some believe it's impossible and only attributable to the gods and messiahs man has created.  But then that debate gets hot when the parent/child love is brought to the picture which quite arguably is the only relationship that comes close to real Agape (selfless) love - and usually from the parent more than the child.  But there are some logically sound and difficult-to-swallow debates there also.

It's all fodder really - as I do believe in self-less love for all kinds of relationships. I believe I love selflessly too and deeply - which is why I'm scared shitless of having a child!   But I do hear the posit that as long as the 'ID' is present, we humans are ultimately too self involved to truly be selfless.

Your thoughts?

"Blossoms" in Ku

 

A Chance Encounter
Succulent Like no other
Ancient yet brand new

~Mystic Urchin~

Ku to Clear the View

There is need to sway
Naked Rhythm summons blues
Wind and Whispers dance.

~Mystic Urchin~

"Life is a theater - invite your audience carefully. Not everyone is spiritually healthy and mature enough to have a front row seat in our lives. 

There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance.  It's amazing what you can accomplish when you LET GO, or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not-going-anywhere relationships/friendships/fellowships!

Observe the relationships around you. Pay attention to: 

Which ones lift and which ones lean? 
Which ones encourage and which ones discourage? 
Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill?  
When you leave certain people, do you feel better or feel worse?  
Which ones always have DRAMA or don't really understand, know and appreciate you and the gift that lies within you? 

When you seek growth, peace of mind, love and truth, the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the FRONT ROW and who should be moved to the balcony of your life.  

You cannot change the people around you....but you can change the people you are around! Ask God for godly wisdom and discernment and choose wisely the people who sit in the front row of your life."


writer unknown


thanks for passing this along Chuchi! 




SOMEWHAT RELATED JOURNEY POST:  The Ongoing Attempt (2007)

Ku Of Truth

Done this before, but never explained.  Every now and then I'll be posting 'Kuz'...Haikus that is...as seen occasionally in my quote box to the right.   Most of them are written by Steve Wilson nee Mystic Urchin, but all writers are welcome!  If you've got one - send it along, I'll post it along with a SeBiArt image that compliments it. 

Quick Haiku Definition: Japanese style of poetry using 17 moras (or syllables), formed in 3 metrical phrases, usually about nature's seasons.  In English, the verse is shown as 3 separate lines of 5, 7, and 5 moras. The skill here is economic verbal expression in creating imagery and mystery we can feel.  We here will break the Japanese rules a bit by making the Ku about whatever strikes the mind and heart. Fascinated?  See more HERE.

  Enough adieu. To this week's Ku. 

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Its an unsung truth
There is beauty in heartache
Proof of recent love


~Mystic Urchin~

Some Blues

Lifted across waves

  Lingual dances stain what could

                                          and never be.

by Steve Wilson

(thanks chuchiwuchi!)